Thirty for Thirty: Part 2

I just want to say that I didn’t rearrange these 30 things after I first wrote them, so they’re in no particular order. But I supposed the first 10 things are what immediately popped into my head, and these next ten are things I had to think about for a bit.

 11.  Only buy clothes secondhand This one I’ve done before, I usually buy from ThredUp which I love and have gotten some GREAT deals on!

 12.  Lion tattoo I have an artist in mind, but she’s booked out pretty far and hasn’t replied to my submission yet. So… this one might be postponed until she can get me in (I’m not going to link to her because I’m not trying to put her on blast or anything). But I guess even if it’s 2019, I’ll still be 30 for a while. So this might still fall into the year.

 13.  Compost This one I’ve also done before, but in an apartment was hard. I had a plastic box under my kitchen sink with holes poked in the top! It worked, because things naturally decompose, but it always stayed so soggy. But now I have a yard! I can have a whole pile, with air to keep it dry! Hooray!

 14.  See the ocean I’m not sure where. So this will take some doing, or planning, or maybe just a spur of the moment thing. Anyways, it’s an attempt to temporarily vacate the Midwest 

 15.  See some mountains Again, the Midwest doesn’t have one of these. What I’m really saying is take a trip somewhere— which is something I haven’t done for a minute!

 16.  Read 30 books This started at 12, then moved up to 15, and then I decided to stick with the 30 theme. I’m a quick reader, so this is totally doable. I think.

17. Explore more with bodywork This one I need to amend a bit, only because I’m back with massage therapy again, and my state license didn’t expire as quickly as I thought– yay! So I’m picking back up with this on Saturdays until I’m out of my office job. (Again, not linking this one, but if you live in the Indy area and need a massage, feel free to privately message me)

 18.  Use every page in sketchbook This is my goal to art more. I know that creativity breeds creativity, so this is just another avenue, hopefully to drive my writing a bit more, too…

19.  Create outline for a novel …which I hope will lead me to THIS. I’ve always wanted to write, especially a novel. I have half-ideas, but I’m hoping to actually sit down and flesh them out a bit. Just to get a complete idea out there.

20.  Buy a piece of art I love I already have several of these. But who doesn’t need more art in their lives?! I know I have plenty of wall space just begging to be zhushed.

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I don’t know about you, but I had a better kind of week this week. It’s getting warm (and humid, but let’s not talk about what that’s doing to our hair). Childish Gambino dropped an incredible new song and video. We had an election. And this weekend is Mother’s Day. All told, pretty good. Pretty good.

  1. I’m with this article’s author. I’ve been walking my way towards this for the past few years, I think. For a long time, I lived a live of guilt and anxiety, and I wonder how much it had to do with all the shoulds and shouldn’ts and ascribing morality to choices that are inherently amoral. It’s freeing to stop beating myself up for choices or trying to pick the exactly right choice that won’t destroy my life.

  2. Here’s what science says about being happy. 10 simple steps, here we go!
  3. How often do you entertain? I am bad about it because I stress about cat hair. And because I don’t want to wear anything but sweatpants. But having people over is like going out, except you’re on your own couch. Win-win.

  4. To be honest, I am here for this new Instagram trend. And found a couple of great accounts to follow. Who doesn’t need some great still-lifes in their feed? Freshen it up.
  5. Do yourself a favor and listen to this mini-series on Utopia. I’m on part 2, and… I don’t know. I’ve always been intrigued by intentional community because something about it just resonates in me.

Happy weekend, and Happy Mother’s Day, and Happy Spring!!

Thirty for Thirty: Part 1

I’m turning 30 on Memorial Day. My thirtieth is a National Holiday—you’re welcome, take the day off!

I’ve got a fun day/ weekend planned with friends, and plans for a whole new decade! I’m not great at maintaining resolutions or anything, but man, do I love a check off list. So I made one! For my 30th year, I present to you my Thirty for Thirty bucket list, Part One
(10 at a time seemed like a more manageable bite).

 

  1. Run 3 5ks 
    I already have one in mind– Wine at the Line, which I’ve done the past 3 years. So that leaves 2 more for me to find. If you’ve got a local suggestion, let me know!
  2. Save $1000
    It’s only $83.33 a week. Doable, right? I just need to build up my emergency fund, which is what I mean with this one. Tips on how to stop impulse spending are welcome.
  3. Learn 12 new recipes
    That’s one a month. Something beyond my limited kitchen skills. I’d like to shy away from sweets, too, because I am a pretty good baker, I just need more time in the cooking department. Also, see the above goal of saving money. This saves  you money, riiiiight?
  4. Support local more
    I’m not sure how to quantify this, so just a general feeling? Buy at a local store or eat at a local restaurant instead of ordering online or eating at a chain. Bam.
  5. Find best probiotic for me
    I use this one right now, and it works pretty well. I also love kombucha. Maybe some combination of these? Are you supposed to rotate? Or stick with one and love it forever? Maybe I’ll do more research. Maybe I’ll write a post…
  6. Start a blog
    Done! So this one will transform more into maintaining and creating regular content. Basically, keep it up!
  7. Repaint the porch
    This is an around-the-house-to-do, but I figured those belonged on this list, too. I have a house now! Time to home maintain Grey Cottage like an adult-figure.
  8. Create a garden
    I tried a garden once, in my apartment complex. My 10×10 plot was overrun with thistles, but I did get one beautiful tomato out of the whole thing. I guess the goal here would be exceed one tomato in output.
  9. Start a Bullet Journal
    Also done! I’ll definitely be posting about this, it is my new favorite thing/my brain in physical form (or the thoughts in physical form… I don’t know). Anyways. I love it and it’s the best and everyone should bullet journal I just want everyone to be happy and journal forever. Maintain this and write some posts here about it, that’s what this is all about.
  10. Workshop with Joy the Baker
    Oh hi, I’m OBSESSED with Joy the Baker. I’m determined to make her my best friend, but I have to meet her first!
    Okay, so all general creepiness aside, I’ve wanted to go to New Orleans forever, and I truly dig Joy the Baker, so why not two birds with one stone? My preferences are her workshops on brunch or pies, and NOT during the summer. I am a delicate flower in the heat. I wilt. I die. I probably suck at pies.

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Oh, it’s Friday! A rainy, stormy one here. This week has been interesting. I’ve gotten to help out at a sunny high school track meet and hold my newborn baby niece! I also have been nursing a rather icky cold (caught at the hospital, no less) and a sick-ish kitty. Warm weather brings all kinds of changes, and I’m so ready for it.

  1. A new line of stationary. Like we don’t have enough paper products. Oh, you don’t? Me neither. Never enough.
  2. Tomorrow is Derby Day. You know what that means– mint juleps, fancy hats, and a chance to pretend we’re all Kentuckians. I spent 4 years near Lexington and Kentucky feels like my second home state. Plus, bourbon is my go-to liquor if I need something stronger than wine. Cheers!
  3. Whoa. And you you thought YOUR parents were bad… It’s just something to keep in mind as things keep getting released about the recently-arrested Golden State Killer (/EARONS). That guy has a family. Oh, and bonus article– Don’t blame Bonnie for HIS crimes. Geez.

  4. In the quest for always learning, how about a class on happiness? I wonder if you get graded…

  5. Hallelujah, ice cream!

Happy ice cream weather, Derby Day, and if you have an extra mint julep, send it my way…

Failure (in which we cut our losses)

Last week, we talked about how much failure sucks and then we talked about a few good steps in trying again. These are really great lessons to learn–

Except, when it’s time to call it quits. I think I’m calling this final tier Tier Four Failure, Not Giving Up. This one is hard. This one we don’t joke about. Because this one takes getting serious and knowing that it’s time to move on from a goal.

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via Kate Austin Photography

Maybe it’s not the right time. Maybe it’s not the right thing. Maybe it’s not the right why. You’ve invested a lot—the whole blood, sweat, tears scenario. But you can’t let that stop you. Just because you spent the money, the energy, the emotion, the time—that won’t always make something happen.

It’s a tricky thing, knowing when enough is enough and knowing when to stop pushing. But if you practice the sort of honesty we practiced last week, and really listen—you’ll know when it’s time. Or, unfortunately, something else might make that decision for you. In that case, I’m sorry. I know it sucks.

Take the time you need to grieve, reflect on what lessons you’ve learned and can take with you, and, when you’re ready, let’s pick up and carry on.

This is not the end of all things, just this thing. So, back up to the top. Congratulations, you’ve tried something. And you’ve failed. But also, you’ve succeeded.

A Monday update

I meant to have a whole post up today, but things change– especially this: I’m an Auntie! My only sister had her first baby, a little girl, at 4:45am on Friday morning. Everyone is fine, and we’re so so excited for this new little addition. I want her to stay tiny forever but I also cannot WAIT for all the adventures.

I’m not adding any pictures, because her parents are pretty private. Plus, who wants their picture splashed all over the internet before you’re even a few days old? Geez.

Anyways. So excited. So tired. So snotty (what?! Oh yeah. Picked up a virus at the hospital. Awesome.)

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All this rain and I’ve honestly been a bit of a grumpasaurus. You too? But I finally DID get a haircut and I’m eagerly anticipating a little one via my sister. So, things are looking good ahead.

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  1.  What’s your passion? Where do you spend your energy? This has been a big question I’ve been ruminating on for a while, realizing I’m tired of spending my energy on other people’s goals. This is a solid read.
  2. Do you journal? Bullet journal? Some other form of connecting with yourself? I’ve always been a bit hit-or-miss on journaling, but I started Bullet Journaling and I’ve taken off like a house on fire. I LOVE it. And I think it’s helped me feel more connected to myself and my mind than I have been for a long time. There will be posts later on Bullet Journals, don’t you worry.
  3. OMG. I love several of these books already, and didn’t even know they were making Where’d You Go, Bernadette? into a movie! So excited! Time to get to reading some of these others, too. I always love adding to my To Be Read list!
  4.  Need some moody, floral inspo? Check out this Insta that I LOVE.
  5.  I got solidly excited about this project when I found out about it just a few days ago. I’m not in the realm of being good enough to submit. But maybe with practice, I’ll get up the courage!

Happy weekend, friends! And wish my sister a safe and healthy delivery (whenever beeb decides to show his/her little face!)